Connection is the key to an intimate relationship in order for it to thrive.
The dilemma; however, is that a lot of people confuse connectivity with proximity. They think if they are in the same room watching TV, running errands together or doing different activities together that they are connected. But that is not necessarily so. They think just by spending time together and superficially exchanging words and thoughts that they are growing in the same direction. But that is the definition of proximity – not connectivity.
They might be in the same room physically but are they truly in the same heart? That can be alarming when years later they are shocked as they look at each other and don’t recognize the other.
Proximity can make it more of a behaviour-based relationship vs a close and intimate one. One may ask more of the other and get their own way most of the time by making demands. Their expectations are based on what is good for each and not necessarily what is good for both. This keeps a couple separate in their thinking and being and they may not realize it until it’s too late. They might be together a lot physically but never emotionally.
Connectivity is true and honest communication with each other. Two people sharing their hopes and dreams and supporting one another. It is caring what the other thinks and feels and not just doing but actually BEING with each other.
The goal is to grow together and not separately, as that is the only way for any relationship to thrive honestly. Even though we must take care of our own needs, we are always better together.
